HAMMER - Bette K. (nee O'Rourke) Of Cheektowaga, NY, November 26, 2023. Beloved wife of the late Albert M. Smith and Kenneth J. Hammer; dearest mother of David A. Smith and Diane Szeliga; loving daughter of the late Virginia (nee French) and James O'Rourke; cherished grandmother of Megan (Denny) Pelczynski and Candice (Wade) Barber; loving and beloved great-grandmother of Caeden, McKenna and Melody; sister of the late James (Phyllis) O'Rourke and Daniel Grey O'Rourke; also survived by many nieces and nephews. Bette was the matriarch of her family for six decades. Her strength, guidance and compassion molded three generations of our family. She will be missed. By her request, there will be no services. Arrangements by: ERIE COUNTY CREMATION SERVICE, (716) 824-6435. Please share your condolences at: www.eriecountycremationservice.com